{"id":30777,"date":"2011-09-16T15:34:59","date_gmt":"2011-09-16T19:34:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=30777"},"modified":"2020-06-27T15:35:23","modified_gmt":"2020-06-27T19:35:23","slug":"eharmony-for-cheaters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=30777","title":{"rendered":"eHarmony for cheaters"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I first heard of what Ashley Madison was, I was admittedly a little abhorred.\u00a0 Cheating and affairs have always had a negative connotation, and here was a site that was not only promoting cheating on your significant other, but rather glorifying it.<\/span><\/p>\n

To no surprise, the general reaction from the media and other outlets wasn\u2019t that much different from my own; FOX disallowing their television spots to air during the Super Bowl, even if they were willing to shell out the millions of dollars necessary for 20-30 seconds of air time; even the jock-iest of jocks talking about online, their general apprehension of their spouses\/significant others hearing it and having that seed planted in their heads.\u00a0 Accounts of those who have already heard\/seen advertising, and re-telling of the awkward silences between them and their others as the idea pervaded their brains, never to leave again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Morally, I think the idea of Ashley Madison is horrible, and wrong on so many levels.\u00a0 Perhaps I\u2019m a little sensitive to the idea of someone cheating on me, but to think there are sites and resources out there that not only facilitate the act, but glorify it, and try to justify it is just really, really wrong.\u00a0 The worst part is that they\u2019re a pretty frequent sponsor to the Howard Stern Sirius channels, meaning I\u2019m subject to their radio spots pretty often.\u00a0 But it says something, when Howard Stern himself, who has done personal advertisement readings for businesses from sex shops to car dealerships to CougarLife.com, hasn\u2019t done one for Ashley Madison.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Recently, I got to thinking about Ashley Madison, and sites like it, and then it dawned on me what they really were: niches within the online dating community for lonely people looking for other lonely people, just like anyone who would log onto Match.com, eHarmony.com, etc, etc.\u00a0 Except, Ashley Madison has a prerequisite that at least one party has to be in a pre-existing, evidently unsatisfying relationship, so that it may be construed as legitimate cheating or an affair.\u00a0 Ashley Madison is nothing but eHarmony for cheaters!\u00a0 CougarLife.com is Match.com for cougars!\u00a0 OnlineBootyCall.com is Zoosk.com for people who just want sex!<\/span><\/p>\n

Obviously, my stance on online dating are well-documented at this point.\u00a0 But having comes to the revelation that Ashley Madison is just a specialized sub-clone of any other dating site, I don\u2019t have as much ill-feeling towards site anymore. \u00a0If anything at all, I feel a little bit of pity for Ashley Madison users, because they\u2019ve fallen into the same trap as all others who have resorted to online dating \u2013 arranging trysts in the real physical world have become impossible for them too.<\/span><\/p>\n

What was once the days of a chance encounter and the animalistic attraction to the point where one or both parties can be seduced away from the arrangement of a pre-existing relationship, resulting in hot, steamy, devious extra-marital relations; the clandestinely sexy art of sneaking around on a partner, is now resorted to the same thing that people looking for a future spouse, people looking for a fling, or people looking for a cougar are doing.\u00a0 Conveniently, solitarily sitting behind a screen, and clicking through profiles, reading unoriginal self-written bios, looking at Photoshopped, cherry-picked pictures, and trying to weed out potential people, whom in this case happen to be unhappily married or attached, to fuck.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not nearly as sexy and empowering as knowing that you\u2019ve seduced another to the point where such prior attachments aren\u2019t worth keeping sacred, now is it?\u00a0 Trying to send racy pictures and dying to sext* each other, but the sites are not allowing personal contact information to be given, and the fact that there\u2019s a middleman in the first place.\u00a0 Or getting close to arranging a tryst for that anticipating naughty start to a tawdry affair, but then for it all to be denied because one party\u2019s membership has reached its message limit, or expired outright.\u00a0 It just doesn\u2019t sound quite the same as how it might\u2019ve been done in the real physical world, in \u201colden days.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Having come to this realization, I suppose \u201cnaughty\u201d dating sites aren\u2019t nearly as morally compromising as I had initially believed them to be, and if anything at all, the concepts of them, seem kind of, well, unfortunate.<\/span><\/p>\n

*My face kind of dropped when I typed in the word \u201csext,\u201d and Word doesn\u2019t put a red line under it.\u00a0 It\u2019s actual vocabulary now, according to Microsoft.\u00a0 wtf.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When I first heard of what Ashley Madison was, I was admittedly a little abhorred.\u00a0 Cheating and affairs have always had a negative connotation, and here was a site that was not only promoting cheating on your significant other, but rather glorifying it. To no surprise, the general reaction from the media and other outlets … Continue reading eHarmony for cheaters<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[147,15,69,49],"class_list":["post-30777","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-cheating","tag-og","tag-television","tag-wtf"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30777","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=30777"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30777\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30778,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30777\/revisions\/30778"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=30777"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=30777"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=30777"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}