{"id":32221,"date":"2012-03-28T22:45:10","date_gmt":"2012-03-29T02:45:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=32221"},"modified":"2020-06-29T22:45:21","modified_gmt":"2020-06-30T02:45:21","slug":"if-everybody-cheats-is-it-really-sexy-anymore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=32221","title":{"rendered":"If everybody cheats, is it really sexy anymore?"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s my opinion that today, we live in an era of antagonism.\u00a0 There are people out there that take pride in being an asshole and make conscious efforts to make life more difficult for their fellow human beings, be it by deliberately being contrarian, intentionally acting in manners that makes a situation difficult for another, or to go on the internet with no purpose but to grief, troll, and pick fights and antagonize others, under the safe veil of anonymity.<\/span><\/p>\n

I think we live in a time where overall positively-connotative morals are at an all-time low, and because it\u2019s been like such for so long, there\u2019s a manner of acceptance of it in lots of cases.\u00a0 Some choose to laugh it off, others shake their heads at the state of our jaded society.\u00a0 Personally, I think I do a little of both; sometimes it\u2019s funny, but sometimes, I just feel like I have no faith in humanity.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I read\u00a0this article in\u00a0Equire<\/em><\/a>, about why people cheat on their spouses or significant others, and that the tone of the overall article is pretty much sympathetic and accepting of adulterous behavior.\u00a0 Keep in mind that the author of such an article is of your typical New York-residing liberal pseudo-feminist whose apparently also written a book simply titled after female canines and\/or irrationally tempered women.\u00a0 But the following quote stood out to me:<\/span><\/p>\n

More than I believe in the sanctity of union and promise, I believe that everybody cheats. If you have not cheated yet, it’s because you are still too grateful to be secure, or you have not yet had the opportunity, or the right color of red hair has not come along and sat down at the bar on a Tuesday when the jukebox was playing Leonard Cohen and your Manhattan tasted like the future.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Now not everyone knows this about me, but I\u2019m a little bit sensitive to the topic of cheating.\u00a0 Likely because I\u2019ve been cheated on before; granted, we were but idiot sixteen year olds who didn\u2019t know what the fuck we wanted in life, but it was still the emotion-wrecking manner of witnessing a girl who agreed to be with me only to admit to a relationship with someone else whom she professed her love to in the midst of our relationship.\u00a0 Sure, I was young, but the feeling of rejection was prevalent then too, and apparently enough to shape me to who I am today in some manner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Frankly, I disagree with such a notion.<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe that everybody cheats.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I don\u2019t.\u00a0 At least when it comes to relationships.\u00a0 I\u2019ll cheat in a video game, or maybe exploit loosely-established rules during a zombie obstacle run, but I can\u2019t say I would go behind the back of someone whom I\u2019m in an established relationship with.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have not cheated yet, it’s because you are still too grateful to be secure, or you have not yet had the opportunity<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What\u2019s wrong with being grateful for having a relationship?\u00a0 I\u2019m grateful to even have a girl smile and not seem completely disinterested in me, let alone establish a modicum of security.\u00a0 As for the opportunity part, even I couldn\u2019t say that the seeds of opportunity didn\u2019t exist for me at some point either.\u00a0 Sure, the thought crossed my mind, but a bigger voice in my head says that it\u2019s wrong; it\u2019s not even worth the stroke to my ego to see how close I could get to someone stroking my dick without actually stroking it.<\/span><\/p>\n

But here\u2019s the thing \u2013 apparently the article goes to great lengths to support evidence that there\u2019s a whole lot of cheating going on in the world, and that it\u2019s apparently okay.\u00a0 It kind of reminds me how anywhere on the internet where public voice can be heard, the nastiest, racist, vulgar and hateful statements will be made, but it\u2019s so commonplace nowadays, that it\u2019s not only acceptable, but almost expected to a degree.<\/span><\/p>\n

So back to the query that started all this, if there\u2019s so much adultery and cheating going on, and everyone does it, is it really sexy anymore?\u00a0 It seems like the part of the appeal to cheat goes along the lines of enjoying the forbidden fruit; establishing a relationship means everyone else is off the table, but managing to get access to the fruit makes it that much sweeter, since we technically shouldn\u2019t be partaking in it.\u00a0 But if everyone\u2019s done it before and still doing it now, isn\u2019t it kind of \u2026 mainstream?\u00a0 I hate to use hipster logic to support my thinking, but it\u2019s kind of valid here.<\/span><\/p>\n

It can\u2019t help that there are \u201cservices\u201d like the pitiful eHarmony for cheaters, Ashley Madison, that \u201cspecialize\u201d in hooking up people looking to cheat for the sake of being able to say the word \u201ccheat,\u201d and what goes along with it.\u00a0 But if there are services that are shedding so much light onto the act, is it so secretive and clandestine as it would be if done by yourself?\u00a0 Isn\u2019t the sneaking around and the act of being secretive part of the arousal?\u00a0 Wouldn\u2019t involving an internet matchmaking service kind of water that down just a smidge?<\/span><\/p>\n

And if everyone\u2019s doing it, couldn\u2019t it just be said that there are probably people out there establishing paper relationships, for no other reason than to be able to say they\u2019re cheating?\u00a0 Like I\u2019m really attracted to Sallie, so I establish a relationship with Elizabeth just so I can cheat on her and go rail Sallie while she can cheat on me with Richard, because forbidden sex is sooooo hawt.\u00a0 But before Elizabeth and I were \u201ctogether,\u201d it wouldn\u2019t work out, because Sallie couldn\u2019t get her rocks off without the tawdry idea of nailing a married guy, and Richard really wanted to bang a married woman.\u00a0 If it\u2019s fabricated, would it still be cheating?<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe<\/em>\u00a0that the author is from another planet, one where cheating is acceptable.\u00a0 I also believe she\u2019s kind of a tramp for, deliberate or not, tempting other men into cheating.\u00a0 I believe that this whole diatribe about why people cheat and why it\u2019s apparently okay is kind of an attempted justification for her own admitted indiscretions and affairs with married men.\u00a0 I believe that this kind of mindset does not accurately represent the mindset of those in the world that exist outside of the planet of New York or any other superficial metrosexual, metropolitan planets of the world.<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe that not everyone cheats, and that cheating in a relationship, is not okay.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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