{"id":46605,"date":"2019-06-21T10:18:29","date_gmt":"2019-06-21T14:18:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=46605"},"modified":"2020-08-11T10:18:41","modified_gmt":"2020-08-11T14:18:41","slug":"the-last-singles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=46605","title":{"rendered":"The last singles"},"content":{"rendered":"

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If I can pull the curtain back a little bit, whenever I sit down and write, there\u2019s no guarantee that the most recent thing I\u2019m writing is actually the most recent thing that\u2019s actually happening.\u00a0 Especially these days, I often times come across things or thoughts that spark the want to write, but I just simply don\u2019t have the time to write, because I\u2019m always busy at work, and by the time I get home, I\u2019m either too busy to write or too fried to write.<\/span><\/p>\n

In times like those, what typically happens is that I have a cloud-based document where I jot down the date and the general theme of what was going to be written, and if there\u2019s any links that I want to refer to, that too.\u00a0 And when I have the time and the motivation to do some writing, those are the things that I try to tackle first.\u00a0 Typically, I don\u2019t like the queue to grow too big, because then it gives me anxiety and a feeling of being worthless as someone who likes to write.\u00a0 But there are exceptions to the queue, where I start writing about something in the true<\/em> present, because usually there\u2019s some degree of time sensitivity to where it\u2019s not something that I can go back and write about retroactively.\u00a0 At the time I\u2019m writing this, there are three posts queued up that I still want to write about when I get the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Right now, is one of those moments.\u00a0 Because the last few days, I\u2019ve been coming to the realization that a lot of the things I\u2019m doing, are the last time I\u2019m doing them as a single guy.\u00a0 Yes, melodramatic me is actually writing about the slow farewell to single, unattached life, because I\u2019m two days from entering the wedded bliss of holy matrimony, and getting married.\u00a0 What started out as mythical gf became mythical fianc\u00e9, and now I\u2019m about to have a mythical wifey, and I\u2019m actually going to be somebody\u2019s husband.\u00a0 Sucks to be them!<\/span><\/p>\n

But anyway, it\u2019s a lot of little things that I\u2019m doing that I\u2019m realizing are the last times I\u2019m doing them as a single person.\u00a0 All throughout the week, I\u2019ve had my final chest and tris day as a single guy.\u00a0 My last time running on the treadmill as a single guy.\u00a0 Today was my last bis-shoulders-hamstrings day.\u00a0 As the weekend progresses, I\u2019ll have my last meals and drinks as a single person, and then when I\u2019m at the altar, likely watching down at mythical fianc\u00e9 coming down the aisle, probably looking radiant and beautiful, I\u2019ll be ticking down my last minutes and seconds as a single person.<\/span><\/p>\n

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And then afterward begins a new clock, moving in the forward direction, as life as a married man.\u00a0 Sure, I know a lot of it isn\u2019t going to really feel that different than the last four years have been, but I\u2019m still looking forward to a new world of \u201cfirsts as a married\u201d with a wife, that I met and courted and got engaged to, and then slapped on the cuffs and married, on my own terms.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I stop and think about our relationship throughout the years, I can confidently say that the underlying basis of just about all of it was simply the fact that everything continued to feel right.\u00a0 Now I may be a big stat loving analytical geeky nerd, but I\u2019m also one that doesn\u2019t discount the importance of believing in the importance of the oft-criticized gut feeling.\u00a0 And from day the pursuit started, I maintain that ultimately, everything felt right, regardless of all the noise and chatter all around.\u00a0 Asking her out at 4 in the morning in a parking lot, moving in together, proposing after four years, and as I\u2019m sure it\u2019ll be when we say \u201cI do,\u201d I\u2019m looking forward to starting a very real new chapter in our lives together, and I can say with conviction that I have no real hesitations or doubts for how everything has transpired.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does this mean I\u2019m nervous?\u00a0 Not at all.\u00a0 There are no nerves in getting married to mythical fianc\u00e9.\u00a0 Most of my recent stress is mostly work-related, or concerns over paying for a wedding that\u2019s gone over budget, or the simple fact that there\u2019ve been three deaths in our respective families in the months leading up to the wedding, and it\u2019s a tricky balance of being sad from loss but excited about the future.\u00a0 But nervous about getting married?\u00a0 Absolutely not.<\/span><\/p>\n

So all that being said, this is also my final brog post as a single guy, and I know the topic of me being single has been pretty prevalent over the last 12 years or so, but all that shit\u2019s coming to an end now.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If I can pull the curtain back a little bit, whenever I sit down and write, there\u2019s no guarantee that the most recent thing I\u2019m writing is actually the most recent thing that\u2019s actually happening.\u00a0 Especially these days, I often times come across things or thoughts that spark the want to write, but I just … Continue reading The last singles<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[158,177,83,91,4,14,138],"class_list":["post-46605","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-milestone","tag-mythical","tag-observations","tag-pf","tag-programming","tag-romance","tag-wedding"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46605","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=46605"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46605\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46607,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46605\/revisions\/46607"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=46605"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=46605"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=46605"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}