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One of the things that I learned throughout my 30\u2019s is to metaphorically not keep score with so many things in life.\u00a0 Because life is not as fair as we\u2019d all like it to be, and so very rarely is a perfect 50\/50 balance, no matter how logical and equal people think they should be.<\/span><\/p>\n For example, say I meet up with a friend, and I pick up the check for a $40 dinner, and the next time we get together, they pay for a $20 lunch at Willy\u2019s.\u00a0 I could be a prick and mentally ledger that they still need to pay out another $20 for us to be even, or I can just appreciate the sheer reciprocity and be content that I\u2019m getting one of my favorite foods for free.\u00a0 Frankly, I\u2019d rather do the latter than try to keep score.<\/span><\/p>\n My mom and I were talking about Korean politics way back when, back when Moon Jae-In had successfully reached through to the insane neighbors up north and made some massive ground in diplomacy.\u00a0 Naturally, we were both dubious that anything was really going to progress beyond some monumental photographs, but her stance was that there was no way that the north was going to play nice enough for anything substantial to happen because there was no way that they were going to give anywhere close to equal what the south would have to give.<\/span><\/p>\n I explained that this was an instance where expecting fairness was never going to amount to anything, and that this was a prime example of where a 50\/50 split just wasn\u2019t plausible.\u00a0 There are just some times in life where it might have to be 55\/45 or even 65\/35 in order for progress to be made, and sure it\u2019s not fair, it\u2019s not equal, but sometimes it takes one party to be bigger in order for progress to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s like playing any variant of Civilization<\/em>, like whenever India comes knocking on the door and you have Gandhi asking you for a king\u2019s ransom\u2019s worth of knowledge and technology, and refusing him results in him literally declaring nuclear war<\/a>. \u00a0It\u2019s not fair and it\u2019s not equal that he\u2019s asking for a 70\/30 relationship, but when that 30 is the survival of your civilization, you still come out of the agreement knowing you made the right call.<\/span><\/p>\n You just can\u2019t expect to live life thinking that everything is always going to equal out and everything is going to be fair, because it most certainly never will be, and thinking that will, only leads to frustration, angst and heartache.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Long-winded introduction aside, I came across this article<\/a> about what basically are a bunch of tone-deaf twats, who are upset and resentful for feeling like they have to pick up the slack for co-workers who have children, because they do not, in the current norm of virtual working from home.<\/span><\/p>\n Sure, I can\u2019t speak for anyone but myself, but in my ideal work life, I work in a manner in which I try to leave as little to no amount of unresolved work as possible, because it would disappoint me in myself greatly, if I knew that other people had to pick up the slack in my absence, because I was daring to try and be a good fucking father and take care of my infant child.<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m absolutely sure there are tens of thousands of people out there that don\u2019t have the same work ethic as people like me do, and they do leave shit for people to have to pick up slack for, and that most certainly is not okay in my book.\u00a0 But for non-parents to come out and try to blanket statement that all parents who work virtually are a bunch of inconsiderate shitheads to live to saddle work onto their non-parenting peers, and pulling an excessive victim card about how they deserve more time perks to incentivize them not needing time considerations in comparison to their parenting colleagues, that\u2019s just petty, short-sighted, tone-deaf and just plain fucking awful.<\/span><\/p>\n I don\u2019t judge nor do I not understand people who have no aspiration to have children.\u00a0 That\u2019s a personal choice that some people make, I just happen to know that I probably wanted to have at least one child and was always open to children myself personally.<\/span><\/p>\n The article does a fine job of cherry-picking scenarios that may or may not be fabricated or just plain hypothetical to feed their narrative that they\u2019re suffering because they do not have children compared to their colleagues who have kids, but ultimately the whole thing reads as insufferable because it\u2019s assholes without kids complaining about assholes with kids that are content to use their children as excuse for poor work ethics, but it still accomplishes creating the wedge between without kids and with kids.<\/span><\/p>\n But the idea that people without children should be getting special treatments or time-related incentives because they don\u2019t take as much time off as those with children?\u00a0 That\u2019s kind of bullshit.<\/span><\/p>\n If any parent is remotely ethical, when their kid is sick, it\u2019s their sick leave that\u2019s used to stay offline and nurse.\u00a0 If their kid has engagements that force a hard stop at 5 pm, nothing\u2019s stopping a no-children person from having a hard stop at 5 pm if they have something, personal or whatnot.\u00a0 The optics of it being reasons not-involving children being less valuable isn\u2019t an issue the problem of parents, it\u2019s an issue with American work ideals, and they should be grumpy about that, and not trying to get even with their parenting colleagues.<\/span><\/p>\n Non-parents who believe they deserve time considerations because they do not have children are prime examples of petty assholes who insist on keeping score, in a situation where score probably shouldn\u2019t be tallied.\u00a0 The optics are poor, the pettiness is real, and all it really accomplishes is furthering the divide between employees, when every good workplace is all about cohesion, teamwork and synergy.<\/span><\/p>\n Life isn\u2019t fair.\u00a0 Your objection with the feeling of being capitalized upon for not having kids is an issue with American workplace ideals, not because of parents with children preying on your lack of them.<\/span><\/p>\n I knew that I was always one good article away from getting fired up enough to vomit out some words, and I guess it needed to be something I could really relate to in my current life situation right now.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" One of the things that I learned throughout my 30\u2019s is to metaphorically not keep score with so many things in life.\u00a0 Because life is not as fair as we\u2019d all like it to be, and so very rarely is a perfect 50\/50 balance, no matter how logical and equal people think they should be. … Continue reading Parent 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![literally declaring nuclear war<\/a>. \u00a0It\u2019s not fair and it\u2019s not equal that he\u2019s asking for a 70\/30 relationship, but when that 30 is the survival of your civilization, you still come out of the agreement knowing you made the right call.<\/span><\/p>\nYou just can\u2019t expect to live life thinking that everything is always going to equal out and everything is going to be fair, because it most certainly never will be, and thinking that will, only leads to frustration, angst and heartache.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\nLong-winded introduction aside, I came across this article<\/a> about what basically are a bunch of tone-deaf twats, who are upset and resentful for feeling like they have to pick up the slack for co-workers who have children, because they do not, in the current norm of virtual working from home.<\/span><\/p>\nSure, I can\u2019t speak for anyone but myself, but in my ideal work life, I work in a manner in which I try to leave as little to no amount of unresolved work as possible, because it would disappoint me in myself greatly, if I knew that other people had to pick up the slack in my absence, because I was daring to try and be a good fucking father and take care of my infant child.<\/span><\/p>\nI\u2019m absolutely sure there are tens of thousands of people out there that don\u2019t have the same work ethic as people like me do, and they do leave shit for people to have to pick up slack for, and that most certainly is not okay in my book.\u00a0 But for non-parents to come out and try to blanket statement that all parents who work virtually are a bunch of inconsiderate shitheads to live to saddle work onto their non-parenting peers, and pulling an excessive victim card about how they deserve more time perks to incentivize them not needing time considerations in comparison to their parenting colleagues, that\u2019s just petty, short-sighted, tone-deaf and just plain fucking awful.<\/span><\/p>\nI don\u2019t judge nor do I not understand people who have no aspiration to have children.\u00a0 That\u2019s a personal choice that some people make, I just happen to know that I probably wanted to have at least one child and was always open to children myself personally.<\/span><\/p>\nThe article does a fine job of cherry-picking scenarios that may or may not be fabricated or just plain hypothetical to feed their narrative that they\u2019re suffering because they do not have children compared to their colleagues who have kids, but ultimately the whole thing reads as insufferable because it\u2019s assholes without kids complaining about assholes with kids that are content to use their children as excuse for poor work ethics, but it still accomplishes creating the wedge between without kids and with kids.<\/span><\/p>\nBut the idea that people without children should be getting special treatments or time-related incentives because they don\u2019t take as much time off as those with children?\u00a0 That\u2019s kind of bullshit.<\/span><\/p>\nIf any parent is remotely ethical, when their kid is sick, it\u2019s their sick leave that\u2019s used to stay offline and nurse.\u00a0 If their kid has engagements that force a hard stop at 5 pm, nothing\u2019s stopping a no-children person from having a hard stop at 5 pm if they have something, personal or whatnot.\u00a0 The optics of it being reasons not-involving children being less valuable isn\u2019t an issue the problem of parents, it\u2019s an issue with American work ideals, and they should be grumpy about that, and not trying to get even with their parenting colleagues.<\/span><\/p>\nNon-parents who believe they deserve time considerations because they do not have children are prime examples of petty assholes who insist on keeping score, in a situation where score probably shouldn\u2019t be tallied.\u00a0 The optics are poor, the pettiness is real, and all it really accomplishes is furthering the divide between employees, when every good workplace is all about cohesion, teamwork and synergy.<\/span><\/p>\nLife isn\u2019t fair.\u00a0 Your objection with the feeling of being capitalized upon for not having kids is an issue with American workplace ideals, not because of parents with children preying on your lack of them.<\/span><\/p>\nI knew that I was always one good article away from getting fired up enough to vomit out some words, and I guess it needed to be something I could really relate to in my current life situation right now.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"One of the things that I learned throughout my 30\u2019s is to metaphorically not keep score with so many things in life.\u00a0 Because life is not as fair as we\u2019d all like it to be, and so very rarely is a perfect 50\/50 balance, no matter how logical and equal people think they should be. … Continue reading Parent 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