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After a few days of feeling foggy and lost, both physically and emotionally, primarily on account of sleep deprivation, a question popped into my head: is there such a thing as postpartum depression for dads<\/em>?<\/span><\/p>\n A cursory Google search<\/a> says that yes, there very much is such a thing as postpartum depression for dads, and that it supposedly affects one in ten dads; it figures that a headcase like me naturally ends up lumped into that 10% chance of developing postpartum symptoms, but from what I was reading in the aforementioned link, I don\u2019t think what I\u2019m going through is entirely the same thing as the \u201cclassic\u201d symptoms.\u00a0 But I am definitely in this hazy, foggy mood, and I think I should be happier, so it\u2019s really up to interpretation on whether or not this is postpartum, or just me being who I am, perpetually concerned or contemplative on whatever I\u2019m doing being a good decision or not, even at the potential expense of the present.<\/span><\/p>\n So I don\u2019t really think I\u2019m going through \u201cclassic\u201d postpartum, but my mood is definitely probably not at happy as it should be following the birth of a child.\u00a0 I feel like, if I could pinpoint it as best as I could, which is a little bit easier considering I\u2019m writing this after the initial period in which I went through this the most, is that I think that at the very root of things, I\u2019m just struggling to find my identity as a dad of two children and not one, balancing the guilt of having to divide my time, and of course, the feelings of inadequacy as well as simply feeling overwhelmed with what life is going to be from here on out.<\/span><\/p>\n But the thing is, I like to tell myself that I didn\u2019t feel inadequate or overwhelmed from time to time, it would reflect on my quality as a dad, because it would mean that I didn\u2019t give enough shits about my family to where I\u2019d feel so owned and defeated so frequently, because I just don\u2019t want to ever let them down.\u00a0 At the end of the day, my goals are to be a good dad and a husband and not let my family down, and I care enough to let those motivations dictate my emotions if I ever feel concerned that I\u2019m not meeting expectation.<\/span><\/p>\n At the end of the day, much like my first time around, things will ultimately settle, calm down, routines materialize, #2 will age out of some of the more challenging behaviors, and life will get easier, and emotions like postpartum will dissipate.\u00a0 As mythical wife and I have often said, now that we\u2019ve had our agreed-upon second and final child, things can only get easier from here on out, as far as raising babies goes.\u00a0 Now infants, toddlers, terrible twos, and so forth are different stories, but at least by then, hopefully our girls will know how to wipe their own asses by then.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" After a few days of feeling foggy and lost, both physically and emotionally, primarily on account of sleep deprivation, a question popped into my head: is there such a thing as postpartum depression for dads? A cursory Google search says that yes, there very much is such a thing as postpartum depression for dads, and … Continue reading 2 Under 2: Paternal Postpartum? (#053)<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[36,193,71,192],"class_list":["post-48029","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-angst","tag-dad","tag-famiry","tag-kids"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48029","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=48029"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48029\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48031,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48029\/revisions\/48031"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=48029"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=48029"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=48029"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}