{"id":48038,"date":"2021-08-11T08:26:51","date_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:26:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48038"},"modified":"2021-08-23T08:27:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-23T13:27:09","slug":"2-under-2-if-youve-ever-said-this-055","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48038","title":{"rendered":"2 Under 2: If you\u2019ve ever said this (#055)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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baby’s first bird<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

This, or anything like this, to me, or to anyone who was expecting a child not their first: \u201coh if your first child was good, that means the second one is going to be a nightmare<\/em>\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Fuck you.\u00a0 Just fuck you.\u00a0 Why in the fuck would anyone want to put these ideas into the heads of parents knowing that they\u2019re already going to be re-embarking onto the already tremendously difficult path of new parenthood, but knowing that the subsequent children are already pegged to be nightmares?\u00a0 That fucking sucks, and I genuinely mean it when I want to tell everyone who insinuated this to me, that fuck you.<\/span><\/p>\n

It has come from friends, it has come from family, and it has come from colleagues, all the same.\u00a0 I know it\u2019s just conversation, it has no bearing on the fate of our relationships, but fuck you all the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

I say all this because I am living this.\u00a0 As much as I love my second child and will continue to love my second child, there\u2019s no sugar coating the genuine difference in difficulty with #2 than there was the first time around.\u00a0 #1 was a vastly more chill and low-maintenance baby, and I know comparisons are inevitable no matter how much I can tell myself to try and not make so many, but there\u2019s no denying that #2 has been substantially more challenging, and it has been testing my patience on a daily basis since her arrival.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll go ahead and say it, just about every single night since her arrival has sucked.\u00a0 This is no knock on my child, but because her circadian rhythm is all out of whack and night is day and day is night, when it\u2019s time for conventional sleep is when the most challenges emerge, and mythical wife and I have been pushed to our breaking points numerous times, and I\u2019ve gotten angry and broken way more than I\u2019d like to admit.\u00a0 Now things have improved slightly since I\u2019m writing things in retrospect at this point, but without question, the first two weeks, every single night sucked, and I burned out repeatedly.<\/span><\/p>\n

Accurate to this very second, #2 exists solely in three states of being: sleeping, eating, or screaming her head off bloody murder.\u00a0 There is seldom any moments of normalcy; typically what seems normal or calm are usually precursors to indigestion-related screaming bloody murder, or the next starving like a UNICEF child screaming bloody murder.\u00a0 Calm is when she falls asleep, but it\u2019s really only a matter of time before the clock gets too close to the next feed, and if a bottle is not prepared in anticipation, it\u2019s going to be eight minutes of agony of waiting for a bottle to warm while she\u2019s screaming her head off the whole time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Suffice to say, it\u2019s back to being Desmond from Lost<\/em><\/a>, where we exist on these windows of time of 90-120 minutes where she dozes off where we can catch our breath, and if we don\u2019t prepare well, then it\u2019s a punishment of more soul-grating screaming until a bottle is in #2\u2019s mouth.<\/span><\/p>\n

By no means do have any feelings other than love for my second child, but at the same time, there\u2019s no way I\u2019m not going to document any of the bullshit and how much she\u2019s driven me mad in the first few weeks of her life.\u00a0 I love my child and I love both my kids, and I love being a dad.\u00a0 But I also believe in being honest and transparent, and relay the fact that not every aspect of parenthood is a walk in the park.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I already look forward to the days when my daughters are older and savvy, and I can tell them stories of how #2 was a nightmare baby early on.\u00a0 Or better yet, when the day eventually comes when I become a grand<\/em>father, and I can relay stories to my daughters whom might becoming new moms about how #2 was a ballistic disaster, and that it\u2019s almost ironic payback that she\u2019ll have to endure a crying baby of her own, much as mythical wife and I had to endure her.<\/span><\/p>\n

I love my daughter.\u00a0 I love my kids.\u00a0 But this is reality and in the spirit of transparency and honesty, these are the stories that I\u2019ll tell about it all, good and hellacious<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This, or anything like this, to me, or to anyone who was expecting a child not their first: \u201coh if your first child was good, that means the second one is going to be a nightmare\u201d Fuck you.\u00a0 Just fuck you.\u00a0 Why in the fuck would anyone want to put these ideas into the heads … Continue reading 2 Under 2: If you\u2019ve ever said this (#055)<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[36,202,100,193,71,105,49],"class_list":["post-48038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-angst","tag-brog","tag-comparison","tag-dad","tag-famiry","tag-rage","tag-wtf"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48038","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=48038"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48038\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48040,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48038\/revisions\/48040"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=48038"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=48038"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=48038"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}