{"id":48085,"date":"2021-08-23T10:08:41","date_gmt":"2021-08-23T14:08:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48085"},"modified":"2021-08-31T10:08:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T14:08:49","slug":"2-under-2-its-okay-to-get-pissed-occasionally-061","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48085","title":{"rendered":"2 Under 2: It\u2019s okay to get pissed (occasionally) (#061)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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As I write a lot of these daddy brog posts, I try to weed out through a lot of the irrational and hope to ultimately be able to sift out important knowledge and bullet points that I\u2019d hope to be able to impart and share with other like-minded fathers in the future.\u00a0 Nobody\u2019s ever come to me for advice or opinions, and I\u2019m not about to just willy-nilly give them out unsolicited, but in the event anyone ever does, I\u2019d want to actually be able to have some useful suggestions and opinions to share.<\/span><\/p>\n

Anyway, for this particular post, this is actually kind of funny: obviously at this current juncture, I rarely have the luxury to be able to write at the very moment the words are formulating in my head.\u00a0 But I\u2019m so determined to write about particular things that I\u2019ll take down notes or jot down a blurb of what it is I\u2019m intending on writing about when I do have the time, ignoring the very important factor that my emotional state might not even be in the same stratosphere when that time actually comes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Like this post, where I\u2019m as calm as a hindu cow<\/a> now, as opposed to the mental state I was in when the idea for this post came to be.\u00a0 I mean, look at the blurb I wrote:<\/span><\/p>\n

8\/22 – dad brog – it’s okay to be pissed off and upset with a difficult baby.\u00a0 it doesn’t mean i love my children any less, but holy fucking shit do i get sick and tired of their bullshit when they’re screaming all the fucking time.\u00a0 i know this is the time to be savoring and enjoying all the moments of their rapidly moving newborn stage, but i’d be lying if i couldn’t wait for the colic, the fussing, shit sleep habits and the endless screaming to be grown out of.\u00a0 i get absolutely dick done on a daily basis because while my wife is on maternity leave, i work my ass off doing double duty parenting while not pissing people off at work by being afk so much, and when i’m on paternity leave, i’ll just be doing double duty parenting work then too.\u00a0 i get no fucking time off ever, and it’s hard to keep my mental state above water sometimes.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

As the kids would say, he mad<\/em>.\u00a0 But as I often believe, things said in the heat of frustration are often the most honest, and even looking back at that wall of text rambling, I don\u2019t disagree with any of it.\u00a0 And that\u2019s one of the things that I would probably impart onto other future dads, and even moms because frustration doesn\u2019t really have a gender associated to it.<\/span><\/p>\n

That being said, what I would definitely tell all new parents, is that it\u2019s okay to get pissed off, occasionally.\u00a0 Because raising kids is hard, often frustrating, and sometimes, all the mantras to remind ourselves to be patient just won\u2019t cut it, and we just need to let ourselves get pissed off and blow off some steam in order to bring ourselves back to level.\u00a0 I imagine we all want to believe that our children are nothing short of perfection and they do nothing wrong, but that\u2019s all bullshit, they\u2019re going to do things that annoy us and piss us off and that it\u2019s okay to acknowledge such behavior as bullshit and it\u2019s okay to be tired of it, because we get tired of the bullshit of adults, why shouldn\u2019t the same apply to babies?<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe it\u2019s important to not bottle things in, because little good can come from holding our emotions in for too long, lest we eventually blow up, and then have a word vomit like the blurb above, worse off if it were something in the physical world.\u00a0 Obviously, little is done in front of my kids as far as my frustrations go, often times I just walk out of the room or tag out to mythical wife, and then I go throw a tantrum in another room or outside of the view of my kids.<\/span><\/p>\n

As far as my lack of time goes, hopefully that is something that eventually rectifies itself as my newborn grows and settles into a routine, most importantly a structure sleeping schedule.\u00a0 Because it does get frustrating and does get mentally challenging, when I don\u2019t have the capabilities to turn dad mode off, even for just an hour or so.<\/span><\/p>\n

But until then, I just want to tell myself and all other new parents, that it\u2019s okay to occasionally get pissed off.\u00a0 It\u2019s going to happen to the best of us, whether or not we want to admit to it, but it\u2019s human nature, and it\u2019s completely okay.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As I write a lot of these daddy brog posts, I try to weed out through a lot of the irrational and hope to ultimately be able to sift out important knowledge and bullet points that I\u2019d hope to be able to impart and share with other like-minded fathers in the future.\u00a0 Nobody\u2019s ever come … Continue reading 2 Under 2: It\u2019s okay to get pissed (occasionally) (#061)<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[193,45,192,52,105],"class_list":["post-48085","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-dad","tag-fail","tag-kids","tag-owned","tag-rage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48085","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=48085"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48085\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48087,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48085\/revisions\/48087"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=48085"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=48085"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=48085"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}