{"id":48674,"date":"2022-03-19T21:03:42","date_gmt":"2022-03-20T02:03:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48674"},"modified":"2022-03-20T21:03:50","modified_gmt":"2022-03-21T02:03:50","slug":"dad-brog-082-will-life-ever-ease-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=48674","title":{"rendered":"Dad Brog (#082): will life ever ease up?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most of my adult life, I\u2019ve always kind of had a list to guide my general objectives. Get a good stable job. Unload the old house. Find a girl to date. To marry. To have children with. Get a new home. Leave toxic job, find better one.<\/span><\/p>\n

Obviously, things change, life changes as does the general list. But the things on said list are pretty broad and pretty concrete things when they are checked off, with the thought being with the more things checked off, the more complete and presumably easier things get with life in general.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, over the last few years I\u2019ve accomplished a large bit of my broad list.\u00a0 I unloaded my old house. I found a new one. I got a good stable job that became toxic, and I left it and found a better one. And I met a girl, married her, and had kids.\u00a0 For the most part, I\u2019ve succeeded in checking off all of the big ticket items on the list, so the rhetorical question is, why is life still so fucking difficult and when will it ever ease up?<\/span><\/p>\n

Obviously, children are the easiest thing to cite as why things are difficult, which isn\u2019t inaccurate, but lately it feels like shit is happening in a way that feels like a competitive video game that allows a losing party suddenly get lucky, score easier, and catch back up, except in my case it\u2019s like nothing is allowed to go smoothly for too long before shit starts happening that has me back in na position of wanting to rip my hair out and scream sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recently, my nanny has basically inexplicably left us, currently indefinitely, since they haven\u2019t reached out since calling out.\u00a0 I won\u2019t go into specifics, but the result of it is basically fucking me because mythical wife can\u2019t take any time off because teachers get dick for privileges as such, so the burden falls on me, to stay home, skirt my job responsibilities and wrangle two babies all day long.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mind you, I\u2019m still new at my job, and I\u2019m concerned, if it\u2019s not already manifested, I\u2019m going to have the reputation of being that headcase worker who\u2019s high maintenance on account of their children.\u00a0 Pre-kids I loathed people who did it at prior places I worked, but I\u2019m basically becoming that person when my paid help flakes on me.\u00a0 Plus, I don\u2019t exactly have the formal PTO accrued, so I\u2019m instead trying my best to pretend to work while watching the girls, and I\u2019m extremely lucky to have colleagues with children who can empathize and understand and give me more leeway than my old C of a boss did.<\/span><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t to say I have no empathy for what the nanny is going through, but there\u2019s a finite ceiling I have for the circumstances that they\u2019re citing.\u00a0 I\u2019m upset and disappointed for a variety of reasons, but more for ones beyond the, I have to take time from my job and looks like an asshole to my team.\u00a0 All the same, I\u2019m in a position where I can\u2019t operate in the unknown, and might have to start looking for a plan B, in a highly, highly nanny\u2019s market.<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh, also it appears that #2 is at yet another sleep regression, according to mythical wife.\u00a0 Except that she\u2019s sucked at sleep since her arrival, so it\u2019s hard to tell when things are at a regression, or if we\u2019re just back to the usual routine of nightly she won\u2019t sleep routine bullshit.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s classic fallacy of thinking things will get better, but we\u2019re back to the point where we spend so much time just trying and praying and hoping she\u2019ll go down that by the time we get anywhere it\u2019s like 9 pm, way later than I want to eat dinner, and I still have a fuckton of daily chores and cleaning that has to get done that I get no fucking help with ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

List or no list, this is life at its most classic. Nothing is ever allowed to be easy, and just when things look like they might be easing up, shit just happens that ratchets the difficulty back to fuck you mode, and I\u2019m in a position where I can\u2019t really do anything about it but make agitated dad brogs.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Most of my adult life, I\u2019ve always kind of had a list to guide my general objectives. Get a good stable job. Unload the old house. Find a girl to date. To marry. To have children with. Get a new home. Leave toxic job, find better one. Obviously, things change, life changes as does the … Continue reading Dad Brog (#082): will life ever ease up?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[193,45,37,192,103,52,105,49],"class_list":["post-48674","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-dad","tag-fail","tag-job","tag-kids","tag-motherland","tag-owned","tag-rage","tag-wtf"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48674","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=48674"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48674\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48675,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48674\/revisions\/48675"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=48674"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=48674"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=48674"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}