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When Jim Carrey\u2019s Yes Man<\/em> was released back in 2008, I remember liking the film a lot.\u00a0 Beyond just myself, I think it really kind of helped paint the picture of just how many people and much of the world were just a whole lot of cynical shut-ins, quick to say no to everything that comes in their direction.\u00a0 Aside from the big crush I had on Zooey Deschanel back then, I really enjoyed the film, and it low-key inspired me to want to be more open minded and willing to say yes to things, even if I knew they might put me out of my comfort zone.<\/span><\/p>\n At first, things went about as well as things did in the film, with getting into swing dancing, and I found it somewhat liberating to try something new and experience growing and developing a new skill.\u00a0 But just in general, I told myself to be more open minded, and say yes to things, and have faith and trust that other people might steer me in the right direction.<\/span><\/p>\n However, all these years later, sometimes I think that I\u2019m too much of a yes man in my life, and that being open too much is putting me in a position in my life where I\u2019m not particularly thrilled to be in, namely in a financial sense.\u00a0 Sure, there\u2019s an allegory about kids and the cost of raising children, but I\u2019ve always been pretty financially conservative, wanting to save, liking cushions and becoming anxious when certain thresholds are below lines I don\u2019t like being under, but these days I feel like I\u2019m drowning, and that no matter what I do, or what cuts I try to implement, I just can\u2019t make any headway or gain any sort of progress in the direction I want to be headed.<\/span><\/p>\n Yes I know that there are millions of people in the world who have it worse than I do, seeing as how I have gainful employment, as does mythical wife, but I feel like our lifestyle occasionally exceeds our means at times, and it\u2019s in these periods in which I wish that I could be more of a NO man and just say no to everything that encroaches on my personal state of being, because being agreeable and wanting to please and remain flexible doesn\u2019t seem to be fucking anyone over but me, and I think it\u2019s an unhealthy dynamic I\u2019m in when my mood goes sour and my world grows dark.<\/span><\/p>\n I feel like I\u2019m living almost entirely in other peoples\u2019 worlds and almost never in my own.\u00a0 Not just in a financial sense, but also with time.\u00a0 I give so much myself to my family and kids and my job, and there\u2019s so little time for myself, and when I do have any I\u2019m fretting about finances and dreading tomorrow\u2019s responsibilities.\u00a0 Relaxation truly is a skill that I do not possess.<\/span><\/p>\n The bottom line is that as much as I wish it wouldn\u2019t dictate my well-being, I\u2019m not feeling very financially secure currently, and it makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed to admit.\u00a0 I\u2019m 40 years old and I look around at the rest of my family and it feels like they all had their shit together better than I do at a similar age and I hate feeling so bothered by money, and had some actionable and tangible plans to gain some improvement.\u00a0 Maybe saying no to more things might help me feel like I\u2019m gaining a measure of control in my own life\u2019s path again, but we\u2019ll see what happens when a query is lobbed in my direction and I don\u2019t want to feel like the bad guy.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When Jim Carrey\u2019s Yes Man was released back in 2008, I remember liking the film a lot.\u00a0 Beyond just myself, I think it really kind of helped paint the picture of just how many people and much of the world were just a whole lot of cynical shut-ins, quick to say no to everything that … Continue reading When being a Yes Man has its 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