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In spite of all the changes to my general writing habits, one thing I always feel compelled to write about is the end of the year post, even if I have an inkling of knowing that it\u2019s going to be pretty mundane, if not kind of depressing.\u00a0 It\u2019s something I\u2019ve done for years, and old habits die hard, and in this case, it\u2019s a habit that\u2019s not necessarily bad, as much as it is just writing with the hopes of being able to reflect and contemplate life in general, and maybe I\u2019ll recognize some patterns or observations to possibly improve my standing in life.<\/span><\/p>\n But mundane and kind of depressing are a fairly accurate way to describe how 2023 was for me.\u00a0 This isn\u2019t to say that I thought it sucked by any stretch of the imagination, there were definitely a lot of positive things that occurred throughout the year.\u00a0 It\u2019s just that we as people tend to dwell more on the negative things that upset us or make us unhappy and it truly is a case of what have you done for me lately, life, huh??<\/em> kind of attitude.<\/span><\/p>\n As has been the case since becoming a parent, twice, and living through the pandemic, I\u2019ve made my general world a really, really small place.\u00a0 Being a dad and parenting comes ahead of absolutely everything else in the world, and considering the immense amount of, capacity, it requires to raise two toddlers, I barely have any time on a daily basis for myself, and so often times I try not to dwell on just how much shit I have to punt on, on a daily basis because there\u2019s just not enough hours in the day to accomplish everything on top of being a parent.<\/span><\/p>\n My daily routine has mostly maintained the same course over the last three years, and I\u2019m always the first one up in order to make breakfast for the kids and be ready for them in the mornings, and most every minute upon my arrival back from the office or the end of my work day is spent with my children, until they go to bed at around 7-8, and then I do a bunch of daily chores to reset the house and prepare for the next day, and when I\u2019m done with that, then maybe I\u2019ll have an hour, maybe two, depending on if I want to forfeit some sleep, in order to have some personal downtime, which has its own pressure in not wanting to squander it, and a feeling of failure if I do.<\/span><\/p>\n I don\u2019t have the capacity to dick around on the internet as much as I used to, and look up news and stories from around the world, the state, or even my own city, to have inspiration to write about, and even if I do have the inspiration, I don\u2019t have the time to write about it.\u00a0 If I earmark it for later, it stands a good chance to not happen, because the knee-jerk reactions that fuel lots of writing don\u2019t exist after too much time passes.<\/span><\/p>\n Among the numerous self-imposed writing exercises I put onto myself, I keep a living document that tries to summarize every single day of the year.\u00a0 In the past, I would jot down some interesting news that might have happened on X day, or a sports occurrence that happened on Y day, or tragic news of a shooting that occurred on Z day, but I generally had this belief that something, somewhere, was interesting stuff happening, on every single day, and it was my way of trying to capture all some of it.<\/span><\/p>\n But then COVID hit at the same time I had a kid, and my world became extremely small.\u00a0 Even though the worst of the pandemic has passed and my kids are getting older, my world hasn\u2019t expanded back out that much, and my general daily summaries are usually along the lines of me being agitated about something, usually parenting related, things my kids did, occasional sports or wrestling observations, but for the most part, a very sparse well of topics that I\u2019ve had the capacity to summarize on a daily basis.<\/span><\/p>\n If it sounds depressing, it\u2019s because I\u2019ve come to the admission that I probably am depressed, possibly on a clinical level.\u00a0 As in the chemicals in my brain are wacked out, causing me to feel apathetic, disinterested in everything, unmotivated to do the things that I generally enjoy and other activities.\u00a0 The thing is, I feel like I know what\u2019s causing the depression, and it isn\u2019t just solely a chemical imbalance, so I don\u2019t necessarily feel like medical intervention is necessary.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Throughout my life, there\u2019s been a direct correlation with my emotional state and my financial wellbeing, and the fact of the matter is that I haven\u2019t felt financially comfortable in like three years, and I don\u2019t know how to fix any of it, so it leaves me feeling despair often, and I\u2019m pretty sure that\u2019s the root of my depression.<\/span><\/p>\n Like if I were to go on some sort of anti-depressants, sure that might make me feel like I\u2019m not so stressed or sad anymore, but no medication is going to magically make my financial woes go away, so I\u2019ve never felt like I should see anyone to try and see what\u2019s up.\u00a0 Also, my medical insurance at my job throughout 2023 has been absolute hot garbage, but I\u2019m going on mythical wife\u2019s medical for 2024 which is way better, so perhaps I should swallow my pride and look into getting checked out, because living the way I have been living throughout the last few years probably hasn\u2019t been the best for all parties involved.<\/span><\/p>\n But like I said, there was also a lot of good stuff that occurred throughout the year, even if I\u2019m a headcase for more days of it than not.\u00a0 My family went on a bunch of Disney trips that were brutally expensive for sure, but rewarding in their own rights.\u00a0 Cruising out of New Orleans was great, visiting Hilton Head was pleasant, and trying a bunch of new restaurants at Disney properties were all good, and my kids seemed to enjoy a lot of it, and that\u2019s what really matters.<\/span><\/p>\n One of my closest friends got married in Vegas, and I didn\u2019t hesitate to go out there and bear witness, and my company sent me out to Los Angeles for the Adobe MAX conference, which was the coolest work trip I\u2019ve ever been to in my career.<\/span><\/p>\n Most importantly, as much as they sometimes drive me crazy with their roller coaster of toddler emotions, watching my kids grow throughout the year is always a wondrous sight of seeing them develop, physically and intellectually.\u00a0 Both my girls have demonstrated a ton of intelligence, and sometimes I just stop and watch them while they eat, play, read or just simply exist, and three years into the journey, I remind myself of how unbelievable it still feels that I\u2019m a dad.<\/span><\/p>\n So, much like my emotional state throughout the year, this year\u2019s end post goes up and goes down, like a roller coaster.\u00a0 There may be plenty of days in which I\u2019m burnt out, worried as fuck about finances, or in need of a good anxiety outlet, but there are no days where I don\u2019t have love for my family and children and friends, no matter what is believed to be on my exterior.<\/span><\/p>\n Overall, I do not feel that 2023 was a poor year, and at the same time, I hope that 2024 and beyond is better.\u00a0 Because why shouldn\u2019t anyone not hope that the next day is better than the one before it?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In spite of all the changes to my general writing habits, one thing I always feel compelled to write about is the end of the year post, even if I have an inkling of knowing that it\u2019s going to be pretty mundane, if not kind of depressing.\u00a0 It\u2019s something I\u2019ve done for years, and old … Continue reading A 2023 Year-End 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