{"id":50329,"date":"2024-12-05T22:37:41","date_gmt":"2024-12-06T03:37:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=50329"},"modified":"2024-12-05T22:37:41","modified_gmt":"2024-12-06T03:37:41","slug":"dad-brog-143-the-surprisingly-emotional-aftermath","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/?p=50329","title":{"rendered":"Dad Brog (#143): the surprisingly emotional aftermath"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It\u2019s not that I\u2019ve gone around and had lengthy conversations about vasectomies leading into my own, but I still feel like there were a few things nobody talks about whenever the subject emerges.\u00a0 I knew that the type of procedure I was going to have wasn\u2019t going to be bad and in fact was probably one of the more efficient and painless ones, but I\u2019m also someone who hasn\u2019t ever had a surgery of any kind before in my life, so the feeling of being in a medical place for myself and laying back on a table for something done to me was completely foreign.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not that I didn\u2019t see this one coming, but it\u2019s still very awkward to have people touching and handling your privates, and I found myself staring intently at the tiles on the ceiling and inadvertently holding my breath and feeling my legs go tense from time to time.\u00a0 Felt like at times my junk were treated like Chinese stress balls the way they were being rolled around, and I get they\u2019re feeling for any things out of the ordinary but was still a completely harrowing feeling all the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

One thing that nobody that I\u2019ve seen has talked about is the smell; and not from the standpoint that of being downstairs, the first bullet point on my pre-op instructions was to shower and shave fairly close to go-time, but the smell of things that are burned by the laser that my particular clinic was using.\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t entirely sure if it were errant hair or flesh or blood vessels, I didn\u2019t look down at the procedure the entire time, but despite the fact that the local was doing a good job of nullifying feeling anything other than movement and the pressure of contact, it clearly doesn\u2019t cancel out the scent of burning that emanated from the point of surgery.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, what it all culminates in, and what serves as the impetus for this post was the surprising wave of emotions that seemed to bubble up after I was done with the procedure, which all in all wasn\u2019t really painful as much as it was just awkward and comfortable as much as your junk being handled for 25 minutes could be.\u00a0 But when I was done, walked out the door and into the car, I just felt almost like crying.\u00a0 Don\u2019t really know why, this was all part of the plan and I certainly don\u2019t want to go through the rigors of having another baby, but all the same, this involuntary and reflexive wave of sadness just kind of washed up and I felt pretty sad.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know I can be a headcase about things, but I feel like I\u2019m kind of on my own here, at least as far as people I know who have also had vasectomies.\u00a0 I asked a few of my friends if they felt sad afterward, and the consensus is pretty much no, so maybe it is just a me thing, but I\u2019d wager that there are plenty of men out there who can relate, but then against we have people who lose their shit over the opening sequence of <\/span>Up<\/em>, and many who don\u2019t too.<\/span><\/p>\n

If I had to guess, it probably has to do with the sheer finality of the whole thing.\u00a0 Sure, vasectomies are technically reversible, but it\u2019s one of those things that just because they are doesn\u2019t mean anyone wants to go through with it, and I\u2019m at peace knowing I won\u2019t father any more kids, but it\u2019s just the fact that it\u2019s a decision sealed with a laser that makes it feels a little heavy handed.\u00a0 For all intents and purposes, this was done to be a permanent measure, and there\u2019s something about said permanence that seems to trigger emotion within me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Otherwise, what a day it\u2019s been afterward.\u00a0 Got to go to Willy\u2019s and get some nachos, even if they were prepared horribly by some white guy that looked like Bill Burr, chilled at home while waiting to see if I would have any pain that wasn\u2019t already there from going to the gym for the first time in a month, as my office was shut down due to malfunctioning elevators.\u00a0 I took a nap for the first time in like forever, and woke up to discover that there was some pretty substantial leadership transitions going on at my company, and that another elevator malfunctioned and we might be back to another shutdown.<\/span><\/p>\n

But the easy joke is that with me getting to rest, nap and eat rich food brought to me, is that I should have more vasectomies in the future to have these baller kinds of days, but at the same time, I don\u2019t like feeling sad, so it\u2019s really one of those weighing the pros and cons things, and that nothing in my life can happen without there being a correlating reaction somewhere else.<\/span><\/p>\n

All the same, so ends my lineage as far as I\u2019m concerned, it\u2019ll be up to my kids and my sister\u2019s kids in the future if there\u2019s any hope for my family\u2019s genetics to continue on.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s not that I\u2019ve gone around and had lengthy conversations about vasectomies leading into my own, but I still feel like there were a few things nobody talks about whenever the subject emerges.\u00a0 I knew that the type of procedure I was going to have wasn\u2019t going to be bad and in fact was probably … Continue reading Dad Brog (#143): the surprisingly emotional aftermath<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[36,100,193,192,41,83,146],"class_list":["post-50329","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brog","tag-angst","tag-comparison","tag-dad","tag-kids","tag-movies","tag-observations","tag-triggered"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50329","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=50329"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50329\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":50330,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50329\/revisions\/50330"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=50329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=50329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/totfc.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=50329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}